The print material sections are designed for you to print and use in conjunction with the book. Please use them regularly as they will be an excellent gauge to how you are progressing. Each page can be opened and is available for printing on most printers.
This section has been developed to understand control mechanisms and how to change them. The three pages from the book will assist you to release yourself from control mechanisms in your life that you no longer need. See if you can identify what control mechanisms people used on you when you were younger. These templates will assist you to deal with these issues and release them.
On the part where you drew a large circle and a small circle, I want you to cross out the controller’s name, which is underneath the large circle. Now write your name underneath or inside the circle, as big as you like, and in a bright, vibrant colour. Now, underneath the small circle, cross out your name and replace it with the name of the controller, written in very small text using a blue or black pen. How does that feel? Much more in proportion? Good. You have now put things into perspective and I bet it feels better too.
Draw a circle around the number that best responds to the question, with zero being the least and ten being the most.
Now fill out this next part as an honest evaluation to see if there have been any changes.
a. How successful will this person be at controlling me now?
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b. If I see this person again, how much control will they have over me?
0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
c. How powerful is this person to me now?
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d. How empowered will I feel when I see this person in the future?
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Where are you now on this scale?
By now you should be more empowered than when you answered the questions earlier.
There are only two processes left to do with this “controller” page. Any colour you like write under the circles “I say farewell to you (controller’s name). I have chosen to break the controlling mechanism you forced upon me. As an empowered individual I say goodbye with a greater knowledge that your controlling cycle has been broken and my ANC is reduced to nothing. You no longer have any power over me as I have empowered myself through self love. Goodbye.”
Once completed, take that page some where safe and burn it. Yes, burn it. Please find somewhere safe to burn it.
As it burns say goodbye to that person knowing their control mechanism will diminish into ashes. Feel a freedom as the paper disappears as does the mind set and ANC. Once the paper has turned into ashes, so too does that persons control. Great work. Feel free. You deserve it. Now go and burn it and rejoice in your freedom.